The women I read for are strong, determined, and willing to take some responsibility for their lives. They understand that it’s important for them to go out and get what they need — that’s freewill. But of course, like any other normal human being they also want to know what will happen to them — this is destiny.
While I’m perfectly content in looking at what might happen to you, I most often like to focus on what a seeker can do to rock their world. All you need is you.
Anyway, the following questions come up a lot in my readings:
- Will I ever get married?
- Will I ever find true love?
- Who is my true love?
The first answers (or my responses) are:
- Yes, if you want to.
- Yes, if you want to.
- I don’t know. Who is your true love?
Just kidding a bit on the last response. 🙂 But in all three cases I didn’t touch one esoteric or psychic tool. I just spoke from the heart and instincts. It’s just a gut reaction to say that someone will have whatever they want to.
Sure, I can easily take a look at the likely probability of who your true love is, what they look like, so on and so forth; however, wouldn’t it be so much better if YOU decided who that would be? And by the way, that’s what most of us are looking for: a life partner, not a true love.
Do you really want to leave your precious life and future up to a fortune telling parlour game?
HOMEWORK
Are you looking for love in all the wrong places? Start looking for love in the right places!
Draw up a list of qualities that you WANT in a mate. Get VERY specific. If you don’t have a certain “look” in mind than ensure that everything else is specific.
Here are some examples:
- General: Loves to cook Specific: Loves to cook for me and my kids
- General: Likes to go out Specific: Likes to go out and see movies, play sports, visit with friends, etc..
- General: Employed Specific: Employed doing what he loves to do and preferably in the medical field
- General: Has great eyes Specific: Eyes are clear, big, and wide full of wonder and love
- General: Has children Specific: Has children that are around my children’s age / moved out / adopted, etc. etc.
It’s OKAY to want things. It’s OKAY to be happy with the person you want to be with.
Now draw up a list of DEAL BREAKERS. These are things that induce warning bells, sirens, and stop signs! Again get VERY specific on what you DO NOT WANT in your life.
- General: Has kids Specific: Has kids that spend every weekend with him.
- General: Overweight Specific: Has unhealthy extra pounds that he doesn’t want to get rid of / not due to medical reasons / etc. etc.
- General: Dislikes his family Specific: Doesn’t visit family on holidays / talks badly about them / has no relationship with them / etc. etc.
- General: Doesn’t want the same future Specific: Isn’t interested in travelling around the world and seeing life like a joyride.
It’s OKAY to be a little superficial — we are HUMAN. 🙂
Everyone’s list is going to be different, I hope. Mine? I already found my life partner. Here’s my mini Life Partner story:
When I was 12 I had a birthday cake and a birthday wish. I wished on meeting my true love — I was a romantic, even early on. I wished a number of things about my future soulmate including them needing me to take care of him and that he was rough around the edges but that I could “fix” him. Oh and just to mention, I drew up a list before the birthday festivities that included other faulty yet charming characteristics of my perfect soulmate (on paper noless — I was an imaginative child but had no clue that I was sealing my fate for a good chunk of my life) HA! Anyway, very silly of me to wish such things because that’s all I ever got until I was in my twenties and then I remembered that I had made that wish. So I drew up a new list of must have’s and dealbreakers and this time one of my must have’s was that he was an artist and loved me. Well, those men starting coming into my life too but there was still something missing. When an engagement failed into a breakup in my early thirties I was alerted to a stark reality that if I didn’t get my act together, I wouldn’t be able to start that family and be a happy Mrs’. I said to myself: “You better figure out what you REALLY want in a life partner!” So I got very specific on what I wanted and he materialized!! My life partner and I have been happily married for close to five years now. yay!! 🙂
So, it’s true. All you have to do is wish upon a star but it’s very important to know exactly what you are wishing for because what you wish for, you will get!
Now, going back to you (you are my favourite subject btw — not kidding!!)…
Take a look at the dealbreakers. How many times have you dated those? Maybe you are even involved with one right now. Does that make sense? Logically, no. Emotionally, yes. As humans we are often drawn to what isn’t good for us and because we know it deep down, it makes the whole experience really stinky after we are finished and that leads to beating ourselves up, not moving forward, above & beyond, etc. etc.
But I digress… Point is… You are likely to not want what you have even though you brought it upon yourself. Yes, you did. That doesn’t mean a naughty boy who treats you like trash should be doing that or that you deserve that but if you choose to take some responsibility for the choices you make, then you will see that you kind of brought it upon yourself. Suck it up sister! *hugs*
Just make peace with this and start again. Start again with the person you are with even (if it’s healthy and you can), but start again. Know what you don’t want and then push away from it. By writing it down, your subconscious will take over and will not send those “Hey, I’m attracted to you you hunk of burning love” vibes to the WRONG MEN. Because, you are not attracted to them, right? You said so yourself, if it’s a dealbreaker you want no leading lady part in that drama. You. are. not. interested. It’s that simple. Unwasted time & emotions. And that’s the vibe that will be sent their way and you know what, “They won’t even make themselves known to you — guys are great like that… well, most of them.”
So do yourself a favour and wish like a kid under the christmass tree but be smart, not like I was way back when because you get what you wish for.
By the way, this applies to women who love women, and men who love men. It’s just that most of my clients seem to be heterosexual women who want a man as a life partner and this little piece of writing is mainly for the women I serve on a regular basis!
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Abella Arthur is a certified professional psychic. She uses coaching, counseling, consulting, guiding and reading skills coupled with tools such as Tarot, Astrology, Numerology and Palmistry to provide a simply life-changing experience. Contact Abella to receive private and special event entertainment readings, fortune greeting cards, or learn how to do what she does. http://www.knowtheway.ca
