This morning I awoke to an unexpected dream of two of my ex’s — one was someone I was infatuated with and dated for a short time, the other was someone I had a short but intense love relationship with (both soulmates).
In this dream, my life partner and I went to a favourite bar (which we don’t go to anymore — too many old memories) and in come walking the two ex’s. The ex I dated briefly smiled and my other longer term ex felt uncomfortable.
My life partner and I then proceeded to sit over near a group of people and after a short while my longer term ex came over. With his wonderfully real “I’m not faking it, I’m not being a tough man right now, I’m at one with my inner child, I’m being purely vulnerable and real, take care not to hurt my feelings or I will break” look on his face with a slightly uneasy smile but had the confidence to say, “I’m sorry. I miss you. But I’m with someone whom I love and it wouldn’t be fair to them to want to be with you”.
With that, the dream was over.
I understood that he has pulled his life together (Which wasn’t together when we were and which is why I left him in the first place. A pattern of me giving too much or trying to “fix” too much needed to end and it needed to end with him so I could be with my life partner). And what do you know: He’s fixed himself. Hooray!
This ex has apologized to me in such a way twice — once in the waking reality (apologized for the trouble caused when we *were together* but he still wanted to be with me) and this morning in dream (apologizing after fixing his problem but saying he has moved on and good for him!) . I haven’t seen him for quite some time so that’s the only reason I could see him doing this this morning — not knowing how to contact me in real life.
There was a reason we got together and while he was enormously hurtful when we were together, he was also quite loving and oddly quite pure. 🙂
Anyway, that put a happy face on me this morning. I’m so very glad he has turned his life around and that he has found someone who resonates well with him and that he is happy! Yay!
