1.

Know what your questions are~

a) Understand what outcomes you hope for but be flexible.
b) Understand what you are *really* seeking. ie To be loved, To be appreciated, etc. etc.
c) Be clear in your question. Do not provide too much detail or background information.
d) State the current condition related to the question: i.e. divorced, single, employed, etc. However, some readers don’t want to know a thing — ask your reader how they want questions phrased.
e) Create open ended and closed ended questions.
f) Be prepared for not hearing what you don’t want to hear and be aware of your emotions.
g) Know your strengths and weaknessess.

2.

Read the whole ad~

a) Write down what you like and what you don’t like.
b) Look on the Internet if you don’t understand terms.
c) See the differences and similarities to other ads.
d) Anything stand out?

3.

Contact the reader~

a) Through email ask the reader what their strengths and weaknesses are.
b) Everyone has strengths and weaknessess.
c) Trust your gut instinct.
d) Trust your mind.
e) Ask for insights and guidance to help manifest what you desire.
f) Ask your reader how they want questions phrased or if they even want to hear your question.

4.

Let time be still~

a) Write down what the reader is saying.
b) Do not draw immediate conclusions.
c) See how general statements apply to you
d) Understand how metaphors and symbolic information applies to you
e) Take action on what you can and let the rest be forgotten (put what you wrote away and then go on with your life.)

Things to Know~

1. Do not seek a miracle worker or a magic eight ball.
2. Do not be tied to outcomes.
3. Understand what you want to really manifest. Not to get x,y,z but to have x,y,z in your life. In other words, not to have Mr. So and So but rather to have love and compatibility in your life.
4. Respect and appreciate the reader like you would want to be respected and appreciated.
5. Do not only seek specific “WOW, How did they know?” readings but rather appreciate that general and synchronistic information can be just as *productive and meaningful*.
6. Some readings require *time*, *calm*, and *quiet*. Ask your reader if they want to take your question(s) through email BEFORE the phone reading starts. Be mindful of not writing too much. A sentence per question is about all that is needed. 🙂

To Be Continued… Sample questions…

“After speaking with her I felt I had a new friend. I also can not articulate in words how much more relaxed and in control of my life I felt after speaking with her I am a believer in God and I believe that God has blessed her with a special gift to help others”

“…We would be best friends if we lived by eachother. She is honest, caring, and outstanding! She even worked on my reading after and mailed it to me!!! :)”

Anyway, I have listed here two of the many testimonials I recieve which include the sentiment of: “I felt like she was my friend”. I feel so humbled and honoured when I read these testimonials because the reality is that I AM connected to people and I see us all as “one”… as brothers and sisters and that sort of rapport opens many doorways for the seeker and myself.

Now I’m going to segway into the Penn and Teller show — Bullshit — and very abruptly… so I ask that Thinking Caps are kept on or Eyes Stay Closed…

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullshit!
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0346369/

These guys did a show (amongst many other shows) on coaching and Tarot reading (two areas that I offer professional and serious services). I must say the coaching one was exceptionally funny and I wish I had the opportunity to see the Tarot reading one.

Basically they poke fun at “truths” of both of those services and I find their presentation of segments to be funny; however, at the same time I value and respect those “truths”. Perhaps I find humour in people poking fun because if I can’t laugh at myself and the funny things about my work then I’m being “too serious” and while I am a serious person, I can’t help but laugh at myself from time-to-time.

Segwaying back to my original thought. One reason why people pay for services that people like me offer is because many of us are looking for “friends” but it’s not as simple as Penn and Teller laugh it off to be… We are seeking “friends” who know stuff and can help us with integrity, care, and authenticity. Professional Friends is a newer concept in our Aquarian Age. Basically we pay for help that our everyday friends that are unable to assist or do not want to assist.

In this day and age, how many of us have “genuine friends” who can actually make a meaningful difference in our lives? That’s why while I can laugh at the “surface insanity” of “why pay $100 a pop when they can just go out and make a friend” thinking from skeptics like Penn and Teller, the reality is that it’s not that simple or accurate.

Professional coaches and readers are your professional friends. We are here for the RIS (Really Important Stuff) or TSTM (The Stuff That Matters) when our “regular” friends are unavailable. Or maybe some of us just choose to not have *regular* friends. And there is no shame or perversion in that.

I believe it takes courage, humility, and maturity to seek out help from outside sources when it’s needed and I applaud all that do!